You are better off to get a Family Lawyer
We used Mediate uk for the initial aspects of divorce and will cease using mediation such as this. So my advice: whatever you do, do not use Mediate UK if there’s even a hint of coercive behaviour, safeguarding issues, disagreement or control issues in your relationship with the person you are divorcing. They have no boundaries with emails (even private matters raised will be forwarded and CC) they do not respect any safeguarding issues there could be, and when I raised this I was shut down and then my email forwarded anyway.
My advice is to read as much as possible yourself from the resources out there.
Do not bother with the free call it’s always to get your booked in and everything they talk about is because it is “that is our process” so you cannot ask specific questions anyway.
You can learn how to write a form e financial disclosure with online guidance. Then use your hard earned reserves to pay for a local family lawyer and cap the hours they can do, while you do as much yourself to understand your own position.
To be clear: Mediate is no cheaper than a lawyer even if they tell you it is, it is not.
Mediate UK charge each session per person so be aware of this. I am shocked at how red flags of controlling behaviour were not acted on. In their quest to remain neutral they actually create more issues than solve issues. Our parenting plan was not completed in the allotted time (“you can book more time”) nor was our financial plan completed with any questions, as she ran out of time and kept saying we can book more sessions.
I have major concerns that Mediate UK are not able to respond appropriately to signs of trauma or coercion and could actually place clients in a far more vulnerable position. I am appalled that this mediation industry even can get away with some of the safeguarding issues it creates by being “neutral” and even insisting that every communication is to both parties does not recognises dynamics that could be potentially harmful. Read up on it yourself, fill out as many forms yourself, spend your time reading up, and then go to a lawyer for the last parts of your divorce. Don’t bother with Mediate UK. This is my experience and I sent these concerns as a complaint and not one of my concerns was taken seriously.
9 de septiembre de 2024
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